I was slightly sad about how someone was talking to me recently. A very very good support in my life had been detached and a feeling of loss is crowding my thoughts.
My husband gave me a wonderful piece of advice which has calmed me dramatically. He compares our expectations to GRE exams. GRE questions start at very very basic level. If you solve it correctly, the next question is slightly harder, if you solve it, the question after that is slightly harder than it and so on.
BUT If you answer the 4th question incorrectly the next question is on 2nd or 1st level depending on your performance so far. Same is with expectations no?
When we meet someone, we have very basic expectations from a person. If the person fulfills some initial expectations then our expectations from them rise. If after sometime they are unable to fulfill then, we become almost depressed and lower our expectations of them dramatically.
Being aware might help.
Keeping absolutely no expectations helps most.
There are some things in life that you just have to wait for. I did. I waited for almost 2 yrs for watching “The bucket list”. My friend was supposed to download it for me since a long time but we just couldn’t set a date to meet. The movie is fantastic. I will be watching it again sometime soon. Sometimes in your life you wait and in anticipation, you think so much about the thing that it grows into something lot better than it actually is. Somewhere halfway in the movie, I realized that I was actually watching it and I realized that even after this long a wait I was soooo very happy “inside” to watch it.The movie is amazing, no my life didn’t drastically change after watching it and I don’t think it will but I absolutely love watching Jack Nicholson.