Learning from Exit

We were coming home from NJ last weekend. There is an exit near Hartford that is always congested. The line to exit in 29 went up till 28. As we came to close to 29, we saw that there were some cars who came from the adjoining lane and signalled to be given way to exit. I felt buggedcar looking at them. How can they do this cheating? It is so unfair. What kind of people are they?

While I was thinking this, I looked back and remembered, there was a looooong line behind me of people who were doing the right thing. Why should I look at the people doing wrong? I rather look at the people doing the right thing and keep my calm. Maybe they had some emergency. The world hasn’t reached its tipping point yet and thank God for that. I think we mustn’t say things like it has or anything that could contribute to something we don’t want.

Have a lovely and productive week ahead.

Don’t forget to keep smiling 😀


Learning because of my thumb

It started as a very very minor discomfort and ended up with me not being able to use my right hand for 4 days now. Life is so tough sometimes. I have been using my left hand past 4 days now and trust me, I have never been in so much pain for such a long duration ever. My mom says – wait till you deliver a baby to shut me up. 😛

My maid was on leave few weeks back and this was at the time my article in New Woman came out. I remember this because I was laughing at His irony and ways to keep me humble. I cleaned every nook and corner of the house with all my might. Nothing happened for 2 weeks.

All of a sudden, there was this slight discomfort in my right wrist about 10 days back. As every woman does, I ignored it obviously. Slowly it grew, I applied ghee for some reason and stayed in the sun for sometime. It sort of healed but next morning, my hand was stiff. The stiffness reduced in few hours and I was busy with work. When I woke up on thursday, before saying my prayers, I had decided that I had to go the doctor today. 😦 If you know me, You know that it is my least favorite thing in the world. So, u can imagine the pain.

On the way, the pain increased. It was so weird. I left home alone thinking I could handle it, I was on my way to the hosp and the pain was increasing. I couldn’t bear to move my right hand now. At the hosp, there was a 2 hour wait and my mind was filled with the most obnoxious thoughts possible. I even imagined myself without an arm. 🙂 I called home and thank heavens it was holiday and mom came to my rescue. I love my mom. ❤

There are some important things I learnt though. Nothing new, nothing I hadn’t read before but experiencing it and learning it based on experience, really teaches u stuff at a whole new level. I don’t know if you will learn because I have learnt it, but that’s life I guess. We don’t learn from others mistakes, we are so hell bent on making our own. Anyway, the painkillers have put me on in a even more philosophical zone than ever, so bear with me.

  1. Mom and family is truly heaven sent
  2. No one can understand your pain as you can. When I was asked to describe my pain on a scale of 1 to 10, I said 9 and my sister laughed coz apparently childbirth is 6 to 8, but what does she know. Each one has their own threshold of pain
  3. Even a single negative thought or negative wish can come true. I remember thinking how life would be if I even had a plaster. Now… Sigh, watch your thoughts, Count your blessings. One single muscle can bring you to tears.
  4. Negative thoughts can drain your energy in a jiffy. Singing helps 🙂 Mom’s kind words definitely help.
  5. Suffering is actually a very beautiful experience. It truly makes u feel His presence.  The hosp I went is at walking distance from my house and the doc is available on Thursday and Monday only. Thank God, My pain increased on Thursday or I would have to go some far away hospital. I went at 9 because I was to go in that direction anyway and realized that if i would have gone at 11, The doctor wouldn’t be there. So thank God for whatever reasons I went early. The lady standing in the queue before me was an angel sent till the time my mom came. She helped me fill my form and also tried to take my mind off my hand when she realized I was crying. When you sit alone with your pain, Learning comes on its own. The seat besides me was empty for sometime. I have always felt His presence when I am alone like this.
  6. And thank Heavens it was my right hand and not my left. 😛

Stay healthy

Keep smiling

Send me good wishes for a quick healing, Got lots of work to do. 🙂

Cello tape Master

I was at the summer fest at TL and during an activity, once I explained the steps to the kids we realized that we had only 1 cellotape and about 28 kids. Oh boy, I had to cut small strips and keep them ready for the children.

I realized a few very important things that day about the universe

  • You got to open your mouth and ask for something. Though the universe knows you and knows that your supply is finished and should be giving it to you, it might not have the time. So never stop praying. Don’t underestimate the power of asking.
  • The universe knows who needs it the most and which kids will make the best use of what. I was slightly partial to the kids whom I know are very neat with their work and have lots of potential in them. I gave them longer strips of the cello tape as compared to the kids who are doing it for the sake of doing it or not ….
  • Also, one more learning related to the above exp, don’t be disheartened if you receive a small strip. Think about it, question yourself the reason for a small strip and you will understand what and where you lack.
  • The universe knows who is cheating or who is not utilizing the resources properly and will ensure that the person receives the tape at the last. I reprimanded the kids who didn’t stick it properly or used too much of it.
  • The universe ensures that people who give it to others get bigger pieces. I have a few kids who help their siblings or smaller kids who need help. I ensured that I gave them the biggest peace so they could help others.
  • The universe can also get disappointed. I know a few kids past 4-5 years now. They used to be obedient and patient. With time and/or bad company they have changed. I gave them the tape last.
  • The universe could get annoyed if you constantly ask and are impatient. I made sure that I imbibe values like patience so I told them to sit patiently and gave them at last for the first few times, when i saw that they had learnt it, I started giving them tapes promptly.



Was looking at the rockets bursting in sky and wondering y is there a noise attached to the bursting. It is sort of bugging. I would rather have a rocket burst without the noise…. Then again, i realised that i would miss out on the burst if the sparklers were away. The noise is like an alert … so we don’t miss out on the beautiful sparkles. 🙂

Bear the noise…Enjoy the noise…to see the sparkles.

Happy diwali

Rose Bloom

Every time I see my rose bloom die I feel very bad. I hate to see the flower wither away and the hardest part is to cut the stem because it doesn’t bloom on the same stem twice.

With time, I am coming to understand that the new bloom appears right from where u have cut the stem. It always does!!! Small pink shoots come and with time, they become buds and then they bloom again.

It’s the cycle. There is no point in being sad when there is no bloom, it will come. It has to come. The plant needs time to get the new bloom na.. Chill, nourish the plant with fertilizers in the mean time and hope for the best.

Keep smiling 🙂